Twitterquette and Sharing Stuff

What’s the correct, well-mannered and easiest way to share stuff online?

I’m now communicating with more people in more ways than ever before, via email, Twitter, Facebook, and this blog. So what’s the best way to share stuff?

Email is easy enough, if there’s a link I think one person in particular would enjoy.

But the others have me puzzling. I use Twitterfeed to push blog posts, things I add to Delicious and things I share on Google Reader out to my Twitter feed. And all three get picked up and posted into Facebook.

But since a lot of links might come in via someone on Twitter, the correct Twitter etiquette is to re-tweet including their name. Which means to share it widely, I’d have to retweet on Twitter and add it manually to Facebook. A pain in the arse, if not impossible, if I’m on my iPhone.

I’m sure that’s not the interconnected Web2.0 way of doing things.

I also have an issue with delicious: when it’s feed is picked up by Twitter or Facebook or anywhere else, my comments aren’t included. Google Reader’s share includes notes but you can’t change or amend the link title (annoying if it’s “NewsWeb | World News | China | Man With Two Heads Found Living In Yoghurt Pot” or something – a whole tweet gone!)

So:
1. Does anyone know a better way to autoshare links between Facebook and Twitter, that will include my comments in both? And also that has a Safari iPhone bookmarklet?

2. Is it really awful of me to automatically feed Twitter with a link instead of retweeting? Coz it’s much easier… (hmm, maybe I could include the original name in my comments if I get number 1 answered)